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How Sleeping Apart from Your Partner Can Help Your Sleep and Relationship

After endless nights of tossing and turning, fights for duvets and being kicked in the shin, you are most likely feeling moody and exhausted at the thought of a day’s work. If you’ve reached the point where you’d rather sleep alone than with the one you love, you’re not alone. 1 in 4 couples sleep separately and studies say this can help strengthen your relationship.

As discussed in our previous article, bad sleep can affect your mood. Whether you woke up during the night or were disturbed by your partner, the interrupted sleep can make you feel agitated and exhausted during the night. After sleeping by yourself for at least two decades it can be difficult to adjust to another person’s sleeping habits.

It is well documented that having less than 6 hours sleep can unfortunately put you at risk of health issues such as high blood pressure, diabetes and heart disease. You’ll also be missing out on the restorative processes like tissue regeneration and hormone release that body goes through each night. In addition, the increased amygdala activity (the processing of memory, decision-making and emotional reactions) from a lack of sleep affects your mood thus affecting your relationship with your partner.

Before committing to sleeping apart, try to address the issues you are experiencing as a couple sleeping in the same bed.

  • Not enough space
  • Stealing covers
  • Snoring
  • Tossing & Turning
  • Out of sync routines

To read our top tips to resolve these issues click here.

Two main lifestyle factors that can prove irresolvable for sleeping as a couple are, firstly, if you and your partner work different shift times and secondly you have different sleep routines i.e. you are a night owl and he/she is an early bird.

If you’re feeling sleep deprived due to your partner’s disturbances this could have a negative effect on your relationship with your loved on. Sleeping apart allows you to get a good night’s sleep for the working week and will leave you feeling more content and in-turn make you more affectionate to your partner.

Here are 3 top tips to sleeping apart but staying in a loving relationship:

  1. Communication is key
  2. Just because your sleeping in different beds doesn’t mean you can’t unwind and have a bedtime routine together. Eating together, taking a walk, watching TV together and talking before going sleep will all help strengthen your relationship.

  3. Intimacy is important
  4. Cuddling or holding hands during the evening will also release the oxytocin hormone (commonly known as the ‘cuddle hormone’ making you feel more connected and bonded.

  5. The bed doesn’t have to be for sleeping – that’s all we’re saying

Want to give sleeping together another go before moving to separate beds? To see more tips for sleeping as a couple read our top 5 here.

Fancy a treat for you and your partner? Win 2 Tempur® Cloud pillows worth £89 each here.

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